Sailan Muslim - The Online Resource for Sri Lanka Muslims http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news Diversity and Inclusiveness Wed, 22 Oct 2014 10:16:53 +0000 en-US hourly 1 5 Things You Didn’t Know About Honey – By: Dr. Mercola http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/5-things-you-didnt-know-about-honey-by-dr-mercola/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/5-things-you-didnt-know-about-honey-by-dr-mercola/#comments Wed, 22 Oct 2014 10:16:53 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14932 Honey has been valued as a natural sweetener long before sugar became widely available in the 16th century. Honey production flourished in ancient Greece and Sicily, for instance, while animals other than humans – bears, badgers, and more – have long raided honeybee hives, risking stings for the sweet reward.

Honey is truly a remarkable substance, made even more extraordinary by the process with which it is made. This blend of sugar, trace enzymes, minerals, vitamins, and amino acids is quite unlike any other sweetener on the planet.

And while honey is high in fructose, it has many health benefits when used in moderation (assuming you’re healthy). Before I delve into those, here’s a brief “lesson” on how honey is made…

How Honey Is Made (Fascinating!)

It takes about 60,000 bees, collectively traveling up to 55,000 miles and visiting more than 2 million flowers, to gather enough nectar to make one pound of honey.

Once the nectar is gathered, the bee stores it in its extra stomach where it mixes with enzymes, and then passes it (via regurgitation) to another bee’s mouth. This process is repeated until the nectar becomes partially digested and is then deposited into a honeycomb.

Once there, the honeybees fan the liquid nectar with their wings, helping the water to evaporate and create the thick substance you know as “honey.” This honeycomb is then sealed with a liquid secretion from the bee’s abdomen, which hardens into beeswax. As Live Science reported:

“Away from air and water, honey can be stored indefinitely, providing bees with the perfect food source for cold winter months.”

There are more than 300 kinds of honey in the US, each with a unique color and flavor that is dependent upon the nectar source. Lighter colored honeys, such as those made from orange blossoms, tend to be milder in flavor while darker-colored honeys, like those made from wildflowers, tend to have a more robust flavor.

5 Honey Facts You Might Not Know

Honey, particularly in its raw form, offers unique health benefits that you might not be aware of. Among them…

1. Honey Makes Excellent Cough “Medicine”

The World Health Organization (WHO) lists honey as a demulcent, which is a substance that relieves irritation in your mouth or throat by forming a protective film.

Research shows honey works as well as dextromethorphan, a common ingredient in over the counter cough medications, to soothe cough and related sleeping difficulties due to upper respiratory tract infections in children.

2. Honey Can Treat Wounds

Honey was a conventional therapy in fighting infection up until the early 20th century, at which time its use slowly vanished with the advent of penicillin. Now the use of honey in wound care is regaining popularity, as researchers are determining exactly how honey can help fight serious skin infections.

Honey has antibacterial, antifungal, and antioxidants activities that make it ideal for treating wounds. In the US, Derma Sciences uses Manuka honey for their Medihoney wound and burn dressings.

Manuka honey is made with pollen gathered from the flowers of the Manuka bush (a medicinal plant), and clinical trials have found this type of honey can effectively eradicate more than 250 clinical strains of bacteria, including resistant varieties such as:

  • MRSA (methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus)
  • MSSA (methicillin-sensitive Staphylococcus aureus)
  • VRE (vancomycin-resistant enterococci)

Compared to other types of honey, Manuka has an extra ingredient with antimicrobial qualities, called the Unique Manuka Factor (UMF). It is so called because no one has yet been able to discover the unique substance involved that gives it its extraordinary antibacterial activity.

Honey releases hydrogen peroxide through an enzymatic process, which explains its general antiseptic qualities, but active Manuka honey contains "something else" that makes it far superior to other types of honey when it comes to killing off bacteria.

That being said, research shows that any type of unprocessed honey helped wounds and ulcers heal. In one study, 58 of 59 wounds showed “remarkable improvement following topical application of honey.”

3. Honey Improves Your Scalp

Honey diluted with a bit of warm water was shown to significantly improve seborrheic dermatitis, which is a scalp condition that causes dandruff and itching. After applying the solution every other day for four weeks, “all of the patients responded markedly.” According to the researchers:

“Itching was relieved and scaling was disappeared within one week. Skin lesions were healed and disappeared completely within 2 weeks. In addition, patients showed subjective improvement in hair loss.”

4. Help Boost Your Energy

A healthy, whole-food diet and proper sleep is the best recipe for boundless energy, but if you’re looking for a quick energy boost, such as before or after a workout, honey can suffice. This is particularly true for athletes looking for a “time-released fuel” to provide energy over a longer duration.

5. Reduce Allergy Symptoms

Locally produced honey, which will contain pollen spores picked up by the bees from local plants, introduces a small amount of allergen into your system. Theoretically, this can activate your immune system and over time can build up your natural immunity against it.

The typical recommendation is to take about a teaspoon-full of locally produced honey per day, starting a few months PRIOR to the pollen season, to allow your system to build up immunity. And the key here is local.

This approach only works because it has pollen of local plants you may be allergic to. Honey from other parts of the country simply won’t work. While research on this has yielded conflicting results, one study found that, during birch pollen season, compared to the control group, the patients using birch pollen honey experienced:

  • 60 percent reduction in symptoms
  • Twice as many asymptomatic days
  • 70 percent fewer days with severe symptoms
  • 50 percent decrease in usage of antihistamines

Interestingly enough, there were few differences between the two honey groups (those who took regular honey, versus those who took honey that contained birch pollen.) However, the birch pollen honey group used less histamines than those who used regular honey. The authors concluded:

"Patients who pre-seasonally used birch pollen honey had significantly better control of their symptoms than did those on conventional medication only, and they had marginally better control compared to those on regular honey. The results should be regarded as preliminary, but they indicate that birch pollen honey could serve as a complementary therapy for birch pollen allergy."

Honey for Herpes

Good-quality honey offers several topical wound-care benefits that can explain some of its success as a remedy for herpes sores:

  • It draws fluid away from your wound
  • The high sugar content suppresses microorganism growth
  • Worker bees secrete an enzyme (glucose oxidase) into the nectar, which then releases low levels of hydrogen peroxide when the honey makes contact with your wound

In one study, 16 adult subjects with a history of recurrent labial and genital herpes attacks used honey to treat one attack, and a commonly prescribed antiviral drug, Acyclovir cream, during another. (It's important to realize that neither the drug nor the honey will actually cure genital herpes. They only treat the symptoms.)

Interestingly, honey provided significantly better treatment results. For labial herpes, the mean healing time was 43 percent better, and for genital herpes, 59 percent better than acyclovir. Pain and crusting was also significantly reduced with the honey, compared to the drug. Two cases of labial herpes and one case of genital herpes remitted completely with the honey treatment, whereas none remitted while using acyclovir.

3 DIY Honey Home Remedies

Honey is a humectant, which means it attracts and retains moisture, making it an ideal addition to moisturizers, shampoos, and conditioners. Along with its antimicrobial properties, honey makes a wonderful addition to homemade personal care products. The National Honey Board has a few you can try out for yourself:

  1. Honey Hair Conditioner: Mix ½ cup honey with ¼ cup olive oil. Work a small amount through your hair until coated. Cover your hair with a shower cap and let sit for 30 minutes. Shampoo as normal and rinse.
  2. Honey Body Moisturizer: Mix 5 tablespoons honey, 2 tablespoons rose oil, and 2 cups almond oil in a medium-sized bottle. Apply as needed onto wet skin.
  3. Honey Almond Scrub: Mix 3 teaspoons honey, 1 teaspoon olive oil, and 6 ½ tablespoons of finely crushed almonds. Rub the exfoliating scrub onto your face gently and rinse with warm water.

The Organic Consumers Association has also published this simple honey lemon cough syrup that’s useful to keep on hand during the winter months:

Honey Lemon Cough Syrup 

Lemon helps promote health by quickly alkalinizing your body, and honey will kill most bacteria while soothing your throat. This is a perfect choice for a quick cough remedy.

  • Put a pint of raw honey in a pan on the stove on VERY low heat (Do not boil honey as this changes its medicinal properties).
  • Take a whole lemon and boil in some water in a separate pan for 2-3 minutes to both soften the lemon and kill any bacteria that may be on the lemon skin.
  • Let the lemon cool enough to handle then cut it in slices and add it to the pint of honey on the stove. 
  • Let mixture cook on warm heat for about an hour.
  • Then strain the lemon from the honey making sure all lemon seeds are removed.
  • Let cool, then bottle in a jar with a lid and store in the refrigerator.

This syrup will keep for 2 months in the refrigerator. To soothe a cough, take 1/2 teaspoon for a 25 lb. child and 1 teaspoon for a 50 lb. child, about 4 times a day, or as often as needed. Adults can take 1-tablespoon doses.

Is Honey a Healthy Natural Sweetener? How to Avoid Fake Honey

As far as natural sweeteners go, honey does have a place. The main thing to remember when it comes to honey is that not all honey is created equal. The antibacterial activity in some honeys is 100 times more potent than in others, while processed refined honey will lack many of these beneficial properties altogether. Your average domestic “Grade A” type honey found in the grocery store is likely highly processed.

It’s also been found that more than 75 percent of the honey on American supermarket shelves may be ultra-processed—to the point that all inherent medicinal properties are completely gone—and then smuggled into the country by the barrel drum. Nearly all of this “fake” honey is made in China. Some of these brokers will even create bogus country of origin papers. All 60 jars of "honey" tested by Food Safety News (FSN) came back negative for pollen, which is a clear sign of ultra-processing.15 According to FSN:

"The removal of these microscopic particles from deep within a flower would make the nectar flunk the quality standards set by most of the world's food safety agencies. The food safety divisions of the World Health Organization, the European Commission and dozens of others have also ruled that without pollen, there is no way to determine whether the honey came from legitimate and safe sources."

In their investigation, FSN discovered the following:

  • 76 percent of honey samples bought at grocery stores (such as TOP Food, Safeway, QFC, Kroger, Harris Teeter, etc.) were absent of pollen
  • 77 percent of the honey from big box stores (like Costco, Sam's Club, Walmart, and Target) were absent of pollen
  • 100 percent of the honey sampled from drug stores (like Walgreens, Rite-Aid, and CVS Pharmacy) were absent of pollen

The good news is all of the samples from farmers markets, co-ops, and natural stores like Trader Joe's had the full, proper compliment of pollen, as did organic brands from common grocery stores. When choosing honey, be sure it is raw, unfiltered, and 100% pure, from a trusted source.

Honey Should Be Consumed Only in Moderation

Honey has many healthy attributes, but it is also high in fructose, averaging around 53 percent. Each teaspoon of honey has nearly four grams of fructose, which means it can exacerbate pre-existing insulin resistance and wreak havoc on your body if consumed in excess. So when consuming honey, carefully add the total grams of fructose (including fruits) that you consume each day, and stay below 25 grams of total fructose per day.

Keep in mind, though, that if you have insulin resistance (i.e. if you are taking drugs for high blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes, or if you're overweight) you'd be better off avoiding all sweeteners, including honey, since any sweetener can decrease your insulin sensitivity and worsen your insulin resistance. If you’re healthy, however, eating raw honey in moderation could provide many of the benefits listed above.

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Orphans protest demolition of dairy factory http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/orphans-protest-demolition-of-dairy-factory/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/orphans-protest-demolition-of-dairy-factory/#comments Wed, 22 Oct 2014 09:42:54 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14924 5th September 2014 | International Solidarity Movement, Khalil team | Hebron, Occupied Palestine

300 orphans staged a protest following the demolition of Al-Rayyan Dairy Factory, north of Hebron, which occurred in the early hours of 1st September 2014.

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The future of the children remains unclear as the two orphanages they live in, the Hebron Charity House for Girls and The Hebron Charity House for Boys, are dependent on the profits made by the dairy factory. Both the orphanages and the dairy factory are owned by the Islamic Charitable Society.


The dairy factory, which housed 150 cows and produced six tones of milk products, such as yogurt and cheese, had run for 24 years, ever since the Islamic Charitable Society received funding from the Kuwait government in 1991 to set up the factory. The purpose was for the Society’s orphanages and schools to have their own source of regular income, rather than relying on donations. The dairy products were distributed to Hebron and the surrounding villages.


The Israeli government, since 2002, has targeted the dairy factory. The first demolition order was based on concerns about environmental regulations, saying that the waste produced by cows was not dealt with suitably. Despite solving this problem, the dairy farm continuously fell under threat by the Israeli military, especially since it was located in Area C, the area of the West Bank completely under Israeli military control. Claims were also made by the Israeli Council for Planning that parts of the farm were illegally built; however, Abed Al-kareen Farrah, one of the lawyers working with the Islamic Charitable Society, confirmed that the farm received approval from the Israel Antiquities Authority for a license to build. He said, “The farm has been under fire for years with a lot of administrative issues, and Israel constantly put pressure on it to close.”


In June 2014, the dairy farm received a second demolition order, accusing the Islamic Charitable Society of having affiliation with Hamas because one of the dairy farm’s workers had been an administrative detainee for the past twenty months. The Chair of the Islamic Charitable Society’s Board of Directors, Hatim al-Bakri, stated that the society is not funding Gaza. On the 3rd of July 2014, Israeli forces confiscated all of the farm’s machinery before demolishing the entire farm a few days ago.

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Hatim al-Bakri added that the farm would be impossible to rebuild, not only because it would cost two million dollars to do so, but also because of the heavy resistance they would face from the Israeli forces. Anything built on that plot of land would risk being demolished again and again.


“The future is dark for the orphans in Hebron,” he says. “I don’t know how we will be able to continue to fund the orphanages, or the seven schools the Islamic Charitable Society runs in and around Hebron. This question should be asked to the occupation.”


The demolition of the dairy farm is yet another example of how collective punishment affects hundreds of Palestinian people every day. Not only does the entire workforce of the farm have to lose their jobs because of one administrative detainee working there, but children, far removed from the workings of the farm, will also suffer the consequences.

Source: http://palsolidarity.org

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Moscow Halal Hotels Lure Muslim Tourists : By : OnIslam & News Agencies http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/moscow-halal-hotels-lure-muslim-tourists-by-onislam-news-agencies/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/moscow-halal-hotels-lure-muslim-tourists-by-onislam-news-agencies/#comments Tue, 21 Oct 2014 07:09:40 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14853 MOSCOW – After the collapse of the Soviet Union, Russia has opened its doors to thousands of Muslim tourists, luring them with halal restaurants and Muslim-friendly resorts in a bid to cap into the growing industry of halal tourism.Capture_compressed

“Due to the fall in the number of visitors from the EU and the US, the Russian tourist industry has started paying greater attention to people coming from Muslim nations,” Samat Sadykov, from the Halal International Centre for Standardisation and Certification in Moscow, told Agence France Presse (AFP) on Monday, October 20.

“Creating the right conditions for them to have a comfortable stay here has become all the more important,” he said. “Halal services are now in high demand.”

Tapping into the thriving halal tourism, several Moscow hotels have been scrambling to woo Muslim visitors by making some necessary modifications to accommodate them.

One of Moscow hotels started to ban bacon meals, offering Qur’an on the tables and installing prayer rooms.

“Around 70 per cent of our guests are from overseas and 13 per cent of these — or some 5,000 people — come from Muslim countries, especially Iran,” said Lyubov Shiyan, marketing director at the Aerostar hotel.

“Our Muslim visitors were constantly asking for a separate prayer room or a special menu,” she said.

“We wanted everyone who came here to feel at home.”

Going through strict procedure, the hotel was successfully certified by Muslim officials to start its halal services this month.

Islam is Russia’s second-largest religion representing roughly 15 percent of its 145 million predominantly Orthodox population.

The Russian Federation is home to some 23 million Muslims in the north of the Caucasus and southern republics of Chechnya, Ingushetia and Dagestan.

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The void in the Russian tourism, made by drop in the number of European and American visitors, was filled by an increasing number of tourists from Muslim countries in the Mideast and Asia.

“We equipped 20 rooms out of the 308 in the hotel with a prayer mat, a basin for ritual washing and a small compass that indicates the direction of Makkah,” said Shiyan, the official from Aerostar hotel.

“If we now add in the number of tourists and businessmen coming to Russia from the Middle East, Turkey or Iran then we’re talking about a truly enormous number of potential customers,” said Sadykov.

Muslim travelers globally are expected to reach $200 billion by 2020, or 13.5 percent of the global total, up from $140 billion in 2013.

A recent study, conducted in 47 countries, found that spending by Muslim tourists is growing faster than the global rate and is forecast to reach $192 billion a year by 2020, up from $126 billion in 2011.

Modifying accommodation, one of the Russian hotels was equipped with “20 rooms out of the 308 in the hotel with a prayer mat, a basin for ritual washing and a small compass that indicates the direction of Mecca,” said Shiyan.

“Even the shampoo and soap in the rooms have been certified as halal and do not contain any animal fats or alcohol,” she added.

“You won’t find any pork or ham here,” chef Vitaly Ukhanov, standing in his small bright kitchen, with a sign with the word “halal” written inside a green star hung up on the wall.

“All the crockery is new and has never been used in the main kitchen,” added the cook.

The concept of halal, — meaning permissible in Arabic — has traditionally been applied to food.

Muslims should only eat meat from livestock slaughtered by a sharp knife from their necks, and the name of Allah, the Arabic word for God, must be mentioned.

Now other goods and services can also be certified as halal, including cosmetics, clothing, pharmaceuticals and financial services.

Muslim travelers globally are expected to reach $200 billion by 2020, or 13.5 percent of the global total, up from $140 billion in 2013.

A recent study, conducted in 47 countries, found that spending by Muslim tourists is growing faster than the global rate and is forecast to reach $192 billion a year by 2020, up from $126 billion in 2011.

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Kaleide-Scope” – Exhibition & Sale http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/kaleide-scope-exhibition-sale/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/kaleide-scope-exhibition-sale/#comments Mon, 20 Oct 2014 09:28:21 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14819 The Muslim Women’s Research & Action Forum (MWRAF) will be holding its annual exhibition 
and sale of arts & crafts through “Kaleide-Scope” at the Women’s International Club, 
Guildford Crescent, Colombo 07 on the 29th November 2014 (Saturday) 
from 9.00 a.m. onwards. Entrance free for the general public. 

Please join hands with us in an act of charity or Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) 
with any of the following:- 

• Sponsors 
• Donations 
• Only banner display Rs.10,000/- 
• Company stall for promotions with banner display and pennants etc; (outdoor) Rs.20,000/- 
• Tables of 6’ X 3’ for (MWRAF) members only Rs.2500/- 

Confirmation only by full payment in advance before 10th November 2014. 

Cheques to be made in favour of ‘Muslim Women’s Research & Action Forum’. 

Please contact Ms.Kumala (0723411810) or Ms.Sarah (0777268182) for further details 

 

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Zam Gems Magnificent Jewels http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/zam-gems-magnificent-jewels/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/zam-gems-magnificent-jewels/#comments Mon, 20 Oct 2014 07:48:46 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14766 Capture_compressed

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Indonesia set to lead in Islamic fashion : by : Kamis http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/indonesia-set-to-lead-in-islamic-fashion-by-kamis/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/indonesia-set-to-lead-in-islamic-fashion-by-kamis/#comments Mon, 20 Oct 2014 07:12:37 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14760 Fash-maniq_compressed

Deputy Minister of Tourism and Creative Economy Sapta Nirwandar expressed optimism that Indonesia will soon become a trendsetter in Islamic fashion as its designers are capable of creating unique and creative works of fashion.

“I am optimistic that Indonesia will be the worlds Muslim fashion trendsetter by 2020,” Sapta claimed here on Thursday.

He affirmed that there is a high likelihood of Indonesia becoming a Muslim fashion trendsetter by 2020 as its designs are in demand among the fashion communities around the world.

He cited the name of one of the Indonesian designers, Dian Pelangi, who was lately successful in holding a fashion show themed, “Washington Haute and Modesty” in DC Fashion Week, Washington DC, the United States.

“Indonesian designs are unique as they are inspired by the traditional cultures,” Sapta pointed out.

According to him, if Indonesia gains recognition as the Muslim fashion trendsetter, it will have a positive impact on the economic growth of the fashion industry and tourism sector as there will be many more foreigners visiting Indonesia to keep abreast of the latest trends in Islamic fashion.

“Fashion is a soft power to introduce Indonesia through the creative industry,” Sapta stated, adding that fashion is one of the 19 leading sub-sectors of the country’s creative industry.

In 2013, the fashion industry contributed Rp181.57 trillion, or about US$1.4 billion. This amount was 28.3 percent of the Gross Domestic Product of the creative economy, which amounted to Rp641.8 trillion, or about US$5.3 billion.

The fashion industry in Indonesia provides jobs to 3.8 million people or 32.3 percent of the total workforce employed in the creative economy sector, which is 11.8 million.

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Islamic History Month in Canada http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/islamic-history-month-in-canada/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/islamic-history-month-in-canada/#comments Mon, 20 Oct 2014 06:16:42 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14736 Muslim_Heritage_Invite_flyer-2014 (1)-page-001_compressed

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“ONE DISTINGUISHED FAMILY OF MOOR STREET JAFFNA” http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/one-distinguished-family-of-moor-street-jaffna/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/one-distinguished-family-of-moor-street-jaffna/#comments Mon, 20 Oct 2014 05:39:50 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14731 RELEASED AT THE COMMEMORATION MEETING IN 2014

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“ISLAMIC CREDIT CARD” – WORKSHOP – 29th October 2014 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/islamic-credit-card-workshop-29th-october-2014/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/islamic-credit-card-workshop-29th-october-2014/#comments Sat, 18 Oct 2014 09:00:11 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14722 EFLYER - ICC-page

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The importance of good family ties : by : Siddiqua Hassan Haswarey http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/the-importance-of-good-family-ties-by-siddiqua-hassan-haswarey/ http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/the-importance-of-good-family-ties-by-siddiqua-hassan-haswarey/#comments Sat, 18 Oct 2014 08:34:18 +0000 http://www.sailanmuslim.com/news/?p=14717 ms-fm-pr_compressed

Allah has said, “O Mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], and from them both He created many men and women; and fear Allah through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the womb (kinship). Surely, Allah is ever an All Watcher over you.” {Surat An-Nisaa 4: Verse 1}

It was narrated by Abu Hurayrah: The Prophet -sallallahu alaihi wa sallam- said, “Allah created the creations, and when He finished from His creations, Ar-Rahm, i.e., womb, said, ‘(O Allah) at this place I seek refuge with You from all those who sever me (i.e. sever the ties of kith and kin).’ Allah said, ‘Yes, won’t you be pleased that I will keep good relations with the one who will keep good relations with you, and I will sever the relation with the one who will sever the relations with you.’ It said, ‘Yes, O my Lord.’ Allah said, ‘Then that is for you.’ ” Allah’s Apostle -sallallahu alaihi wa sallam- added, “Read (in the Qur’an) if you wish, the Statement of Allah: ‘Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land and sever your ties of kinship?’ (47.22)” (Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.16)

One of the characteristics of Rasullallah -sallallahu alaihi wa sallam- that is most admirable is the honor he gave to his relationships. Be it his extended family, aunt or uncle, or even his own daughters, he -sallallahu alaihi wa sallam- honored those relations, respected those ties, and did what was best in order to maintain and nurture them to a point where he even maintained ties with those who were related to his beloveds, like in the case of Khadijah (radhi Allahu anha), his beloved wife.

In Islam, the Qur’an and Sunnah have placed a great deal of importance to blood ties, or as it is described in the hadith above, “ties of the womb”. Allah (Tabaarak wa Ta’ala) has emphasized the significance of maintaining ties of kinship. What is interesting though is that nowadays there has been an steep increase in the amount of significance and importance given particularly to bonds of marriage, while in the process isolating the other relationships in an individual’s live, which nonetheless are just as important. There is an ever-increasing amount of importance being given to the marital bond but there is hardly any mention of the other ties that we all are bonded by, more specifically ties of the blood. Everyone is aiming to be a great spouse, but not a very great brother or sister.

A lot of cultures around the world are based on certain Jahiliyy concepts. For example in the Indian subcontinent, the daughter is not a complete part of the family but will belong to the family into which she marries. This is upheld to such an extent that if she were to have a divorce, she would not be accepted back into her blood family, rather she is isolated and left to deal with the situation as it is. Whereas in Islam, a woman is not even required to change her maiden name because it is a mark of her roots; it is the title that shows what tribe she comes from, the title that shows precisely where her blood ties originate. When two people get married, they essentially bring two tribes (or families) together and neither one leaves his/her family to join the others, but rather they come together in a union that expands his/her tribe in interconnection with another tribe. This concept of leaving your family or tribe to join anothers has seeped into Islam from Jahiliyyah. Ironically, even before the time of Rasullallah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) the women were addressed with their maiden name or as the daughter of so and so. When Rasullallah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) married all of his wives, they were always addressed as belonging or coming from another family, not so they would feel like an outsider but because they in fact belonged by blood to another family. This also served the purpose of clearing up the mahrem and non-mahrem relationships.

What is even more distressing is to see the disrespect being given to the ties of the womb, in comparison to the all of the other relationships. It is almost as though Muslims have begun to weigh the bonds of marriage so heavily that in the process they have forgotten the importance of the ties of blood. We are the progeny of our fathers and our mothers. What flows within our veins is their blood and none others. Our brothers and sisters are progeny of the very same parents and what flows in their veins is exactly as what flows in our very own. No matter what we do there is nothing that we can possibly do to change that fact. Yet we treat our families as though they are strangers and we treat strangers as though they are family. SubhanAllah! Muslims have more love in their hearts for those who are related to them through this deen than the affection they have toward their own blood brother even though the latter is just as Muslim as he is. We have thinned down the blood ties to such an extent that we are ready to destroy our very own brother or sister for the sake of success in this dunya. Would Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) be pleased with us to destroy the bonds that He has blessed each of us? Bonds that He (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) has explicitly and continually ordered us to uphold and maintain. We are ordered by Allah to be a brother unto a fellow Muslim. Imagine the weight He (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) has placed on our relationship with one who is Muslim and is related to us through blood ties?

It was narrated by Abu Hurayrah (radhi Allahu anhu) that the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should serve his guest generously; and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should unite the bond of kinship (i.e. keep good relation with his kith and kin); and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should speak what is good or keep quiet.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.160)

Narrated by Abu Aiyub (radhi Allahu anhu): A man said to the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) and said, “Tell me of such a deed as will make me enter Paradise.” The people said, “What is the matter with him? What is the matter with him?” The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “He has something to ask. (What he needs greatly.)” The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “(In order to enter Paradise) you should worship Allah and do not ascribe any partners to Him, offer prayer perfectly, pay the Zakat and keep good relations with your kith and kin.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 2.479)

We are living in a time when Muslims are so concerned with pleasing their spouses that they are willing to sacrifice their bonds of blood. Muslim men are racing to be the “best of mankind by being the best to their wives” but, are the worst of men to their mothers, who carried them for nine months and then bore the burden of nurturing them until they were strong enough to care for themselves; they are the worst of men to their sisters who are bonded to them in blood and not in contract, who rightfully deserve their respect and care. Can Allah be so unjust to have weighed down the marital bonds above the bonds of the womb? SubhanAllahi Atheem! Allah can never be unjust; in fact He (Tabaarak wa Ta’ala) is far from imperfection. Indeed, Allah created us in order to test us just as He created each and every single being in existence and truly, we all will get as each of us deserve, in this dunya as well as in the Aakhirah.

“Say: ‘To whom belong the earth and all beings therein? (Say) if you know!’ They will say ‘To Allah!’ Say: ‘Yet will you not receive admonition?’ Say: ‘Who is the Lord of the seven heavens and the Lord of the Throne (of Glory) Supreme?’ They will say ‘(They belong) to Allah.’ Say: ‘Will you not then be filled with awe?’ Say: ‘Who is it in whose hands is the governance of all things who protects (all) but is not protected (of any)? (Say) if you know.’ They will say ‘(It belongs) to Allah.’ Say: ‘Then how are you deluded?’” {Surat Al-Mu’minun: Verses 84 – 89}

O Allah! Make all of our deeds righteous and make them purely for Your Sake, and do not let there be any share for anyone or anything else in them. O Allah! Turner of Hearts! Keep our hearts steadfast on Your religion. Aameen. Allahumma Aameen.

Subhanaka `Allahumma wa bihamdika, wa `ash-hadu `an laa `Illaaha `illaa `anta, `astaghfiruka wa `atoobu `ilayka. (Glorified are You O’ Allah and I am in Your praise, I testify that there is no deity except You, I ask Your forgiveness and repent unto You).

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